zaobpee_vv4-laura-ockelMy teenage son recently experienced his first heartbreak. His quasi-girlfriend of three months decided that they were better off being friends. Curiously, aside from school, the two never hung out. There were never any goofily awkward teenage phone calls or belabored requests to meet up at the movies or the mall. What’s more, they both knew that she−an exchange student from Swedenwould head back home at the end of the school year. Seemingly, this relationship was much ado about nothing…but in reality, he was crushed by the news.

As a parent it can be all too easy to dismiss the drama-rich heartaches felt by teenagers. Likewise, as adults, we too often intentionally overlook the emotional wounds of others. Having an apathetic response only compounds the issue for those who are suffering.

Rejection comes in many forms and when it does come, it administers a humbling sting. Learning that you aren’t the one can be an incredibly hard pill to swallow−be it the loss of a romantic interest, estrangement from family or friends, or being passed over for a job. 

Rejection hurts…a lot. Being dismissed, excluded, or overlooked just feels so deeply personal. We instantly feel the weight of judgement and a sense of unwanted finality. The feeling of loss, especially when it comes to relationships, is hardest of all.

Deuteronomy 31: 6 reminds us that God will never leave us or forsake us.  As His children, we need not fear rejection. In times of sorrow, remind yourself and others who need it that God is always looking out for each and every one of us.

John Long

The Afternoon Drive
Joy FM